A wellness approach to a healthy lifestyle while enjoying the present, and process of becoming who you are
Life is a process, and becoming who you are is not meant to be a one day, month, or a year thing. It is a matter of a lifetime. Knowing that fact will help you exercise more compassion towards yourself and others as you go through the process.
This Life Is Not Godliness, But Growth In Godliness; Not Health, But Healing; Not Being, But Becoming; Not Rest, But Exercise. We Are Not Now What We Shall Be, But We Are On The Way. — Martin Luther
None among us has life all figured out, and anyone we might think has it figured out is either faking it or already died. Perhaps we are still here because we have something of meaning to share and must learn to get it right.
The moment you achieve that, the world is no longer useful to you. It only makes sense to transition to the next level. It is human nature to move forward to the next thing. This sometimes hinders the same happiness we are dreaming about.
For example, kindergarteners cannot wait to start elementary school, elementary schoolers cannot wait to experience the middle school lifestyle, while a middle schooler thinks middle school is the most boring place and they are way too mature to be there. It is only right that they begin high school and high schoolers cannot wait to leave their parents’ houses and start the life of freedom, the party life in college or just to move out and be independent without any authority to monitor them. Meanwhile, college students cannot wait to undo all the ‘Wrongs’ of society by showcasing their fresh talents or eagerly applying for graduate school to become ‘Masters’ of something and ‘Fix’ the broken world.
It does not matter where you are in life; there is a chance that you are dreaming of what the next level or place will be like. I am guilty of it too. One year ago, I was anticipating how married life would be and all the fun and stories I heard about couples in marriages.
Will my marriage be different? How many fights are we going to have? What are things that we will fight about? Will I miss him all the time as I used to while dating him? Will he have the upper hand? Should I be submissive and, if yes, I am betraying modern feminism?
Now that I am married, without missing a beat, I am looking forward to the next level. What happened to all the anticipation and the excitement I had before I got married? I don’t know. Some will say, “life happened.” But is it really that life happened, or am I too preoccupied with the concept rather the process of it all?
This post is part 1 of a two-part series. Happy, restful Sunday, and have a wonderful week to everyone.